COUPLES COUNSELING
Heal the Patterns Between You
When conflict takes over, it can feel overwhelming and disorienting. You love each other, yet somehow end up on opposite sides of the same fight. That mix of fear, frustration, and sadness can make it hard to believe things could ever feel easy again.
It might sound like you’re fighting about the dishes, the unanswered text, the tone, or the schedule— but it’s never really about those things.
It’s about the disconnection, fear, and unmet needs underneath.
Couples therapy offers a space to slow down and make sense of what’s happening between you. It goes beyond communication tips or conflict-management strategies. Together, we look at the patterns that keep showing up and the protective moves that make you both feel unheard. We then work to replace them with moments of understanding and closeness.
What Is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)?
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a research-supported, experiential approach that helps partners rebuild emotional safety and connection. Rather than focusing on who’s right or wrong, we focus on the cycle — the repeating pattern of protest, withdrawal, or defensiveness that takes over when you both feel disconnected.
Once you can recognize the cycle, you can step out of it. You start to see that neither of you is the enemy — the cycle is. From there, we work toward creating new interactions that feel safer, softer, and more responsive.
EFT is process-oriented. The change doesn’t come from talking about your relationship, but from experiencing one another differently — right there in session — in ways that begin to repair trust and strengthen your bond.
Why It Works
Most couples don’t need better communication skills — they need to feel secure with each other again. When emotional safety is restored, communication naturally improves. EFT helps uncover the tender emotions beneath the frustration — the fear of being rejected, the longing to be seen, the hope of being understood.
When those feelings can be shared and received, the relationship shifts at its core. That’s the real work — learning how to reach for one another and know the other person will reach back.